‘Every path you choose in life can lead to happiness.’

Although Ayumi (29) doesn’t live a traditional Japanse lifestyle, marriage is really important to her.

What does happiness mean to you?
To find a man I love and get married. I finally found him and I am feeling happy since the day we met. He makes me laugh all the time, by doing silly. I enjoy our time together without strings attached. But it would be a dream come true if he purposes to me.

What is your background?
I was born in the most northern part of Honshu.When I was twelve my parents divorced and I moved with my mom to live a normal life in Saitama Prefecture. As my mom is not a typical housewife and never cooks, I had to do a lot at home after high school. I did the groceries and had made dinner. My stepfather cooks well, so I learned it from him. After high school I studied English, but I never finished it. I am not a studie type. When I quit I started working for the Japanese Railway, I worked here several years. When I went to the wedding of one of my friend, I fell in love with the wedding business. I found my passion in wedding ceremonies and nowadays I work as a stylist for a wedding company.

Where do you stand in life?
I am happily in love. I have a British boyfriend who lives in Japan. He is an English teacher since nine months. I feel really excited because I will go to England to meet his family soon. Compared to Japanese guys, British guys are more my kind. Japanese guys don’t express their feelings, which can be really hard having a relationship with them. My current boyfriend often expresses to me how much he likes me, which makes me feel more in love then ever.

Are you familiar with the 30 years dilemma?
Yes I am, in Japan it is strange that I am not married yet. All my friends from when I was young are already married. I prefer to take my time, instead of getting a divorce because I married to soon. I am still a free woman and I feel happy about it. I don’t have a baby so I can do whatever I want, like traveling. I want to enjoy my life and don’t rush into something because of expectations.

What is your future dream?
I want to open my own shop one day. I am a creative person and want to sell my own hand made accessories for weddings. 

What wise lesson did your parents teach you?
If you are unhappy in a relationship, don’t get married. After my parents got divorced I realized you should only get married when you are really sure about it.

What advice would you give to your younger self?
Don’t regret the decisions you make in life. Quitting school wasn’t a wrong decision although it didn’t feel right at the time. My life turned out great taking another path then expected. Every path you choose in life, can lead to happiness. 

When was your last moment of happiness?
Yesterday when I was at a concert of Exo, a Japanese band. I am a big fan and I went last week in Tokyo as well. But yesterday night they really improved. I felt proud of them!

 

Under the same sun is an ongoing travel log which you can follow on our travel and lifestyle blog Meet You at the Bridge. The reports show the similarities and differences on what it means to be happy for women between the ages of 25 and 35 who hail from different cultures.

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